Celebrity Crushes

It has been a "movie watching" type of weekend. I've done my usual stuff - like working out, laundry, cleaning room, helping clean up the house, blog-stalking, and hanging out with friends. But every day, there's been at least one movie that has come on that I've just had to watch.

Today was the worst of them all. I woke up at 9:30am and caught the very beginning of 8MM. Intense freakin' movie that left me slightly queasy. Then tonight, I watched Dodgeball, and as I type this, Changing Lanes is on. Usually, I'm not a really big "tv" person - although there are certain shows that I have to watch. During different times of the year, it's different shows. But I absolutely adore Grey's Anatomy, ER, and House... does anyone see a pattern emerging here? Anyway, during their "on seasons" I also like Amazing Race and American Idol.

Well, with all this movie watching, it's got me thinking about who my "celebrity crushes" are. Everyone's got them, but it's not something I've ever really thought too much about other than a passing, "heyyyyy... he's goooooood-lookin!" With much drool thought, I've determined my top three favorites of all time. These men are incredible actors and to me, totally sexy. In no particular order...

Jeremy Piven; YUMMY! Really, does anything else need to be said?

Kevin James; He is just adorable!! He's got this whole shy, guy-next-door, look going on for him. Plus, he's got an excellent sense of humor (I've seen him David Letterman and what not) and I love a man that makes me laugh!

Patrick Dempsey; brainy, somewhat nerdy, charming, sex appeal. What more can you ask for in a man??

So there you have it. My taste in men, illustrated by "celebrity crushes."

I know - another totally pointless entry but I'm kind of bored at the moment. Plus, Miss Mez has me thinking... not an unusual occurence after reading her blog. By the way, if you haven't read her, you really need to. She's been a reader of this, well, not "this" particular blog, but me... pretty much since I started blogging. Along with Phil. It never ceases to amaze me that intelligent, articulate, witty, interesting, all-the-way-around incredible people actually read my journal. And I can't say enough good about this gal. I just *heart* her! So go read if, by some chance, you haven't yet.

But back to my original point though. Mez got me to thinking about "settling" and just reiterated why I am choosing to remain single at this point in my life. I don't expect a man to be "perfect" - there is no such thing. There is no such thing as the "perfect" woman either. Humanity as a whole needs to get past that ridiculous notion if you ask me. Because boys? Jessica Alba? Yeah - she has a nice rack, a flat stomach, cellulite-free thighs, etc. But I'll bet you a million dollars that she rips ass. Or stinks up the bathroom at least once a day. Or wakes up wondering how she ate a possum in the middle of the night. I bet she even asks her boyfriend/current lover if her ass looks fat in her jeans.

I'm not going to say that looks don't play a factor in attraction because they do. But what those looks are, are different for every person. Personally, that whole look thing can change for me from person-to-person. I'm looking for a man that I can TRUST. Someone who will be willing to earn that from me because I can't just keep giving it away - it screws me over every time. I'm looking for a man that will take the time to do the "little things." You know - the "corny" stuff that they really don't see the big deal in, but means the world to us women. I want a man that is stubborn and just a bit bossy - if I can push you around then I'm not going to be able to respect you. No respect = no future. I want a man that is secure enough in himself that, when I have a severe mood-swing, he's not going to take it personal and will simply understand that I carry a heavy load and sometimes I crack. I'm not psychotic or delusional or prone to bad temper... sometimes, the pressure just has to have somewhere to go and it comes out as a foul mood. I want someone that will make me laugh and not be afraid to be a dork with me. Someone that says I'm beautiful and not "hot." I want someone that shares similiar values and has similar plans for their future and a vision as to what that includes. Someone who isn't wishy-washy about their feelings, knows what they want, and goes for it. Whatever that may be.

I don't know.

I just know that I have certain standards as to how I expect to be treated. I'm not going to invest my time, energy, and feelings into someone that treats me like shit.

And that, is that. Whether it's not settling or just having enough self-respect for myself to say "NO! This is NOT acceptable." Maybe it's even a combination of both, but it's how I feel. I guess that's the only bottom line that counts.

Update 1.03am: I have not felt more sorry for a character in a movie in... well, a really long time to say the least. Samuel L. Jackson gave an awesome performance in Changing Lanes and my heart seriously went out to him. If I hadn't been expecting it, I would have cried at the end when his wife and kids are across the street smiling at him - sending the message that they were coming home. Definitely worth the numb rear end to watch it. And now, I must go to bed as I have to get up for church in 7hrs and counting.